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Liz and Jim convinced me that I liked the Yankees.

I believe she refused to root for one particular team because she didn’t want to appear to favor one child over another. Bill hated the Yankees the way my father hated Richard Nixon. In the battle of New York teams, though, he and my father rooted for the Mets. He attended college in Boston, remained there after graduating, and - to this day, I struggle to speak the words - became a Red Sox fan. My oldest brother, Bill, had been a New York Giants fan until their relocation to San Francisco. Jim cared less than the rest of us, but in our household, at that time, one chose a team. My sister, Liz, and my brother Jim, the siblings closest to me in years, both rooted for the Yankees. That was the day I fell in love with baseball. I didn’t remember the exact date, but today we live in an age of marvels, and all I had to do was Google a few key phrases from the storyline of the game. I was seven years old, the youngest child by far in a household that revered baseball.

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Coe developing characters emotion empathy family friendship how to write parenting writing writing advice writing life writing tips character development characters creativity D.B. Keep writing, and be kind to one another. Be as empathetic in dealing with the people you interact with as you would want to be in creating your characters. And so I would ask that you “be-character” your friends and loved ones. And yet I would ask your indulgence as I do just that.īecause right now our world cries out for the some level of compassion and love that we ought to bring to our writing. But to offer advice for the rest of what we do? What a terrible idea. It takes enough gumption and hubris to offer writing advice in this environment. I don’t often offer life advice in these posts. In this time of unrest and uncertainty, though, I would add this. Committing to our characters in that way will make them all the more real to our readers. Put another way, our writing is most effective when we subsume ourselves to our point of view characters.Īnd so I often tell writers to befriend their characters, to nurture them, to give as much love and compassion to them, even our “villains,” as we do to the real people in our lives. In the same way, we are at our best as writers when we dive deep into the emotions and thoughts of the people we create, when we put ourselves fully into their minds and their hearts and channel for our readers all that they experience. We draw upon our own experiences of course, and do our best to bring wisdom to their concerns, but we let go of the self and cater to what they require of us. When the people we love need our guidance or our sympathy, we do our best to set our egos and needs aside and imagine ourselves in their positions. So is being a good person, a caring companion to those in our lives. Writing, I believe, is an act of empathy. The qualities that make us good spouses, good parents, good siblings and offspring and friends, are also the qualities that make us good writers. For now, though, let me begin with something I have said before at conventions and workshops: I have lots of suggestions I can make about creating characters, and I will focus on some in-depth specifics next week. I love my worlds and magic systems and such, but I live and die with my characters. I would argue that they are also what captivate us as we write. The people in our stories are what captivate our readers. For all the time we spend on our worlds, our plots, all the twists and turns and cool stuff we do with our stories, nothing matters more than giving our readers believable, compelling characters. So for the next couple of weeks, I’ll be writing specifically about building and deepening characters.īecause nothing is more important to good story telling. I’ve written about conflict and dialogue and point of view, which are integral to developing characters, but I have not tackled the subject head on. I believe every topic I’ve covered is important and useful - I wouldn’t put so much work into these posts if I didn’t.īut I recently realized that I have yet to focus a post on character development. So far this year, I have used my Wednesday posts to offer advice about any number of things, from finding agents and navigating the market to processing ideas and building worlds. It’s a lazy, hot, stormy day and I’m feeling, well, lazy and hot… This will be a relatively brief Writing-Tip Wednesday post.